RELATIONSHIP : the way in which two or more people feel and behave towards each other
As a therapist my starting point for working with relationships is drawn from so frequently having one person in the room describing their struggle to understand and be understood within their most important alliance...
We all come into relationship carrying with us experiences and ideas that have formed over time and when things start to go wrong in the dynamic between you it is often these unconsidered belief systems that need exploring together. Without help they can be difficult to reach as what tends to happen is that habitual patterns of relating become set and we find ourselves going around in cycles of attack, defend and placate which can be emotionally draining and never quite gets us to the issue.
That’s where I come in, I’m not here to judge and take sides but to listen and then help guide you towards really hearing and understanding where you are each coming from and how things are being interpreted. It is often not what is being said but the meaning made of it that has the biggest impact.
That you are willing to turn up and acknowledge a difficulty is, in itself, a great starting point. It indicates to one another that you would like to actively take part and share in the responsibility for building a resolution of repair… a bridge back to a healthy, functioning and supportive relationship.
My premise for working with relationships is that we will do this together. It is not my practise to separate out and work individually with one of you as, you will find, the greatest learning comes through sharing and developing confidence in the skill of openness within the relationship.
If you would like to book an introductory call then please contact me with each of your email addresses and I will get in touch to arrange a time. At present I am working exclusively on zoom for relationships which gives you the option of either being together or calling in from different locations.
It is the unresolved stuff - the ruptures that don’t get healed - that tend to stay around and show up as repeating patterns impacting relationships.
